Another Update

I realized that I forgot to mention something else that I talked to my doctor about yesterday. I asked her about the hole in Elam's heart. My last ultrasound confirmed that the hole was still there and I was wondering if it would be life-threatening. I asked my doctor, but she was not sure. It depends on how big the hole is. Babies are born all the time with ventricle defects like Elam's and they're fine as long as the hole is small. If it is large, blood can flow backwards in the heart, which would lead to heart failure. So I will ask the high risk doctor about it at my next ultrasound. Please pray that the hole will be small, or better yet, that it would heal completely.

Also, I have another update since yesterday. My doctor called me last night after hours to let me know that she had talked to the neonatologist and that the neonatologist would be calling me in the next few days to set up a time to visit the NICU. I am very blessed to have a doctor who is so helpful, even after hours! I didn't expect to that she would contact the neonatologist so soon. To my surprise, the neonatologist called about 15-20 minutes later! She was very kind and told us to come any time on Sunday. She wants me to have the doctor's office fax over all of Elam's records so they will be prepared for him. Another blessing! I'm very grateful to be working with yet another person who is so helpful. It is very nice to know that they will be completely informed and ready for Elam if he is born alive. Please pray for our visit to the NICU and our time with the neonatologist. This will be a great chance to ask questions about decisions we may need to make and any other ways we need to prepare. And it will be good to be able to see the NICU and know a little more about what to expect in case Elam needs it.

Doctor Appointment Today - 31.5 weeks

This morning I had another doctor appointment. Elam's heartbeat is still good. Last week, I noticed that I had finally gained a total of 10 pounds. I've had a hard time gaining weight, so it was exciting to finally reach the 10-pound mark. Soon after I noticed that, I suddenly gained another three pounds! It seemed to happen in just one day. I was a little concerned about that because rapid weight gain can be a symptom of pre-eclampsia, but the doctor said that it was probably fine. My blood pressure still looks good and I haven't had any other symptoms. So I'm excited to finally be gaining some more weight!

The doctor is going to call the neonatal intensive care unit at the hospital to arrange a time for us to take a tour. It will be a good time to ask questions about any decisions we may have to make once he's born if he is born alive (such as any life support we may or may not want him to have). I'm looking forward to this time so we can feel a little more prepared in case Elam does survive for a little while.

Elam has still been moving some. I can tell he's usually still sitting very low in my pelvis, but I have been feeling movement every day. I'm not sure if I'm feeling distinct kicks... I'm having a hard time distinguishing them from normal tummy-rumblings. But it is nice to still feel him move (pressure in different parts of my belly) every day.

I'm 31 1/2 weeks now. As I get closer and closer to my due date, it's exciting and scary all at the same time, thinking about what is in store for us very soon. I'm very much looking forward to meeting our little Elam, regardless of the circumstances. I've been thinking about him so much-- I'm excited to finally be able to see him, hold him, and kiss him. I was concerned for a long time about how I would react when I saw him, knowing that he has so many visible birth defects, but as time goes by, I care less and less about that and more and more about just holding and kissing my baby boy. Of course, I would absolutely love for him to be born alive so we can spend time with him.

Please continue to pray for Elam's complete healing and that we would be as prepared as possible for his arrival. Thank you!

Ultrasound

We had our ultrasound today, this time in the afternoon, hoping that Elam would be awake and more cooperative. No such luck! He is still in the frank breech position and he's very low in my pelvis. So he was not easy to see. The ultrasound was fast, just mainly checking his measurements. He weighs about 1.5 pounds now. He's about 5 weeks behind in his size. We could see a front-view of his face, but we didn't get a good view of much else. I asked about his heart and brain, so she tried to check on those. She couldn't get a good view of his brain. She explained that it is hard to see the brain well once the bones in the skull have calcified more. When she checked his heart, she could immediately see the hole in his heart. It did not appear to have improved.

I think that's all we learned today. We're feeling pretty good about the ultrasound. We've come to expect that with his disorder, he will continue to get a little more behind at each ultrasound. So learning that he was another week behind was not surprising. We just enjoyed seeing him and hearing that he now weighs a pound and a half. I'm not sure that we are going to post the video of the ultrasound online. It's very short and hard to see. We have another ultrasound scheduled for four weeks from today. Thank you for your prayers!

Doctor Appointment Today

I went to the doctor today. Elam's heartbeat was a little slower than the average baby at his gestational age, but the doctor didn't seem too concerned about it. When I have checked his heartbeat recently at home, it's usually been in the normal healthy range. Once it was slow like it was today and another time it was a little faster than normal. She did seem a little concerned when I told her that I haven't been feeling him kick very often, but I had been feeling pressure where he is in my belly. She asked me if I had had any on a list of labor symptoms, but I hadn't. So she didn't seem too concerned about that either. I asked her when she would plan to do a c-section if Elam survives to term. She said that we'll probably schedule it during my 39th week, so he has as much time to develop as possible, which is particularly important for his lungs.

I have an ultrasound on Thursday. Please pray that Elam is in a better position this time. I'm not as concerned about him being breech because it seems that I'm going to most likely have a c-section no matter what, but it would be nice to be able to look at all of his body parts and see how they're doing. We've had a particularly difficult time seeing his hands and feet in the last ultrasounds, so it would be nice to actually get a good look at them, as well as all his other features. I'm not sure if this will be an in-depth ultrasound. Hopefully it will be, or hopefully we'll have one of those the next time, so we can see how his brain is doing and if the hole in his heart has improved or worsened.

Please continue to pray that Elam would remain as healthy as possible. I'm hoping that the fact that he hasn't been kicking consistently and his slower heartbeat aren't a serious cause for concern. Thank you for your prayers! I will post an update on Thursday about the ultrasound.

Weekly Update

I did not go to the doctor today, but I wanted to write an update for the week anyway. Not much has happened since my last update. I felt Elam kicking last night for the first time in a while. Ben got to feel it too! I can tell he's still been moving because I still feel pressure in different parts of my belly, but I hadn't felt distinct kicks for a week or two.

Last week was encouraging for me. Hearing that my doctor expected me to go full-term was really nice to hear and some other people also had some really hopeful things to say. So we're starting to think about what we may need to do to prepare in case he does survive for a little while. We'll probably begin preparing once I get to 32-34 weeks.

I have a doctor's appointment next Monday and an ultrasound next Thursday. I'm looking forward to my ultrasound. Elam has not been in a very good position for the past few ultrasounds. Please pray that he's in a better position so we can see him clearly.